The Challenge: Your style should not show the world’s struggle…

by Marsha Glover

Ok so recently I texted a group of my friends that I have been in a chat with prior to and during Covid-19 quarantine.  It must be stated that this group of ladies are some of the most naturally beautiful women I know, they’re from different races, ethnic backgrounds and for a lack of better term “boss bishes”, which means they know how to get things done.   That being said I texted these ladies that we should do our own version of the #dontrushchallenge.   I saw on social media a lot of beauties doing this challenge and I was inspired and thought, “my girls can do this…!” I wasn’t expecting the following responses:

Coco – “I don’t know what that is but if it has anything to do with a video I am out… “.


My girlfriend with the pixie cut–  “I wanted to but I have no way of fixing my hair nice…” (said while she is wearing a turban with a Chanel pin )


Coco– “I am not doing anything like that unless there is food, drinks and a man involved…. besides I have no lashes and if I had lashes I will be having sex right now…not doing some Tik Tok challenge 😂”.


Crystal– “I am open to trying.” 

Carrie– “I don’t have any time to get dressed now…that I am home my husband wants sex all of the time… I can’t use the excuse of I am tired from working all day…”. 

(the names have been changed for this story…)


One out of four of my girlfriends was all I got… not quite enough to do a challenge…  My request actually made me think; does our purpose for getting dressed and doing our hair have an ulterior motive besides feeling good?  My mother would say the world should never see your struggle on you.  She taught me to always do my hair and get dressed as if someone will be watching.  Covid-19 has brought its share of struggles, but I do believe my mom’s lessons apply.  Starting each day off by putting your best face on, gives hope and if not for anything it makes you look at yourself in the mirror and work on what you have, with what you have.  However if you still need a motive to get dress, give yourself one.  I have been looking for an excuse to wear my new Bottega shoes and favorite clutch.  The best I got was my trip to the ATM and my Doctor’s office… But hey I took the opportunity and made the best of it… 


I recently watched my favorite episode of Sex and the City,  Season 4 Episode 2 “The Real me” Its the episode where Carrie falls on the runway… After falling she stated: “I had a choice, I can sleep off the runway and let my inner model die of shame or I can pick myself up flaws and all and finish… and thats just what I did because when people fall down in life, they get right back up and keep on walking” .

I challenge you to pick your self up and get back on the runway!  

Photos taken in my back yard by my hubby 🙂


  • Ryan Glover April 11, 2020 at 11:46 am

    Necessary Reading for men and women. Well done.

    • Marsha Chin-Glover April 29, 2020 at 6:53 am

      Thank you for your continued support !

      • Oprah August 6, 2020 at 10:41 pm

        I love the jeans what kind are those as well as the trench ?

        • Marsha Chin-Glover November 24, 2021 at 11:58 pm

          The trench Victoria Beckham and the jeans top shop

  • Tee Daniels April 11, 2020 at 12:46 pm

    I love this blog!

    • Marsha Chin-Glover April 29, 2020 at 6:52 am

      Thank you! and love you for reading! Stay tuned… I am back on my runway…of life that is.

  • BQE April 11, 2020 at 2:07 pm

    Great post! Self motivation is the best motivation. However, as long as we have breath in our bodies. We have a reason to get cutesy and be thankfu! #Lifeisthereason!

    • Marsha Chin-Glover April 29, 2020 at 6:46 am

      #lifeisthereason thank you for that, and thank you for reading!

  • Sandi April 13, 2020 at 3:30 am

    So well said! Back on the runway!

    • Marsha Chin-Glover April 29, 2020 at 6:49 am

      Thank you for reading and in the words of my teenager “yesssss to the runway!lol”

  • Dee Thompson May 6, 2020 at 6:28 pm

    Nice article! Often looking great on the outside can make us feel good on the inside during difficult time. Which happens to be our current situation in the US. Staying positive, and a little self-care is a good thing 😊
    Thanks Marsha!!

  • Patrice September 14, 2020 at 9:15 pm

    I love this! Reading it September 14. 2020 🌹

  • Kimberly July 25, 2021 at 4:37 pm

    This post was just the push I needed to get back in the game, as we slowly open up here in Toronto-You’re right absolutely right! Can’t let this pandemic steal our joy.!

  • Karizma September 18, 2021 at 9:04 pm

    Such a simple messages but hit me hard lol.. needed it – thank you!

    • Marsha Chin-Glover November 24, 2021 at 11:53 pm

      Thank you… That makes me happy that it had an impact

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